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The Drama Free Divorce

Katey Villalon

October 9, 2025

There's no escaping the realities of divorce if you, like 50% of the married population in the US, choose to end your marriage. The typical American d...

divorcedivorce recoveryconflict resolutionpersonal growthmarriage challenges
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Am I Too OLD to Get Divorced?

Katey Villalon

June 23, 2025

Maybe. It’s a tricky question, for which there is no answer that’s right or wrong. It really depends on one’s perspective, their relational and financ...

late life divorce divorce after 50 empty nest divorce
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Is There a Sweet Spot Between Self-Loathing and Self-Love?

Katey Villalon, LMFT, IRT

February 17, 2024

Our relationship with ourselves is complicated. As a therapist, I experience few clients that readily acknowledge the parts of themselves that they ad...

self-acceptancepersonal growth
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Why Wait to Date?

Katey Villalon, LMFT, IRT

February 14, 2024

This is a question that I’m asked in therapy all the time– by clients that are either in the process of a divorce, or just on the other side of it. I...

dating after divorcedivorce recovery
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Is it Time to Say "Goodbye"?

Katey Villalon, LMFT, IRT

February 10, 2024

Why We Marry As a couples' therapist, I encounter people that married for so many different reasons, including finishing school, starting a career, a...

marriage challengesdivorce
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How Do I Get it Right the 2nd or 3rd Time Around?

Katey Villalon, LMFT, IRT

December 15, 2023

Divorce can do a number on more than just your bank account; it can deplete your self-confidence, making you second guess your entire approach to rela...

dating after divorcerelationship readiness
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What Causes Divorce?

Katey Villalon, LMFT, IRT

November 16, 2023

Studies show that there are 10 common reasons that couples divorce, including: 1. [Lack of Commitment](lack-of-commitment) 2. [Infidelity – Includ...

divorcemarriage challenges
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What If I End Up Alone After My Divorce?

Katey Villalon, LMFT, IRT

October 11, 2023

Studies show that there’s a noteworthy trend when it comes to mid-life and divorce. Since 1990, the rate of divorce for those over 50 years old has in...

divorce recoverypersonal growth
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Why is It So Hard to Hit Escape on Narcissistic Abuse?

Katey Villalon, LMFT, IRT

September 14, 2023

The primary reason that it’s so hard to leave a relationship with a narcissist is that the toxic abuser is very adept at creating a state of constant...

narcissistic abusetoxic relationshipsnarcissistic traits
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Am I a Narcissist?

Katey Villalon, LMFT, IRT

February 15, 2022

Am I a Narcissist? It’s possible that you are in fact a narcissist, given that narcissism, like many things, exists on a spectrum, but you might not...

narcissistic traitspersonal growth
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Do I Have to Apologize?

Katey Villalon, LMFT, IRT

February 8, 2022

Do I have to apologize? The simple response to that question is: Yes, you do have to apologize if you’ve made a relational transgression or hurt some...

conflict resolutionrelationship skills
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How can caring for someone be so hard?

Katey Villalon, LMFT, IRT

February 1, 2022

How can caring for someone be so hard? I hear this question often when I work with individuals that are struggling with caring for a loved one that h...

caregiver supportself-care
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Is it Possible to Ever be Happy After?

Katey Villalon, LMFT, IRT

January 25, 2022

Is it Possible to Ever be Happy After? In one simple word, in shouty caps, YES. It is indeed possible to be happy after divorce, but it takes time an...

divorce recoverypersonal growth
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Is My Partner a Narcissist?

Katey Villalon, LMFT, IRT

January 18, 2022

Is My Partner a NARCISSIST? I hear this a lot. The term narcissist is used, and sometimes misused, to describe an unbalanced relationship or a person...

narcissistic traitstoxic relationships
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Why do I always end up in lousy relationships?

Katey Villalon, LMFT, IRT

January 11, 2022

Why do I always end up in lousy relationships? When I’m asked this question, I sometimes respond with a question of my own: What has informed you tha...

relationship patternsself-worth
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Will the grief ever end?

Katey Villalon, LMFT, IRT

January 4, 2022

Will the grief ever end? I’m often asked this when I work with a client who is in the midst of dealing with an overwhelming loss. Loss arrives in so...

grief and lossemotional healing
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